Dating Tips with Christopher Mendes

Below is an interview with our very own, editor-in-chief and master-of-seduction, Christopher Mendes. The interview was conducted by Tonya of datingsite.org.

Tonya: The days of going to college for your “MRS degree” were not so long ago. Many college students still intend to get married when they graduate. What should a college student do to make sure their college love is the love of their life? That being said, how common is it these days for a student to graduate without any plans for a wedding in the near future?

Christopher: If you have been together for a least a few years (i.e., most of college), you should know if the person you are dating is marriage-worthy or just a complete bum. But if they are a complete bum, it really says a lot about you…and you should probably go find someone else. Like right away. Do it. Now. Anyway, the average age for men to get married in the United States is 28 and for women it is 26-27. Most people wait until about half a decade after college to do it.

Tonya: Let’s be honest, if you don’t meet your friends in class, you meet them at parties or bars. While these are certainly great places to meet people, what would you say are the top places in college to meet quality, potentially relationship ready, people?

Christopher: From a man’s perspective: One of the best places to meet relationship-type girls is in class. Most of the typical places men hit on women are the worst places to do it. To meet good friends, pick an activity, club, or sport and go for it!

Tonya: What is your opinion on dating sites? More specifically, should college students look to dating sites to find love? Have they become that mainstream?

Christopher: Yes, dating sites have definitely become mainstream! A few good friends of mine tried them a few years back when they were starting to get more popular but today everybody is doing it and it is not weird any more.

Tonya: Should college students be concerned about finding love during college? What would you say to those who are graduating not only with no intention to get married anytime soon, but single?

Christopher: I think of college as more of a time to have fun. Thinking about a serious relationship may not be the best way to do it. Relationships are fun and it is definitely fun being in a relationship but that should not be someone’s priority. The intention to stay single, that definitely should not be anyone’s priority.

Tonya: College is often a mix of people from other countries and cultural backgrounds. When is it too soon to ask about the personal issues, like religion for example? Is the first date too soon?

Christopher: I don’t think so. Usually these ‘taboo’ or ‘hot’ topics like religion and politics will ruin relationships or make them stronger. It is best to know where you stand with your potential partner on the issues that are important to you, if they are that important to you.

Tonya: If you met someone while under the influence of alcohol, is it a good idea to call that person the next morning and express your interest in them?

Christopher: It is better than regretting not doing it later! Life’s short; do it!

Tonya: What about teachers? Perhaps professors are out of place, but teacher’s assistants and graduates students often assist in teaching classes and even grading papers. When is it and when isn’t it appropriate to pursue a relationship with these individuals?

Christopher: Relationships between students and TA’s are a lot more common than you think! The best policy is to always wait until the semester is over before starting the relationship.

Tonya: Another common scenario is that a freshman meets a senior student whom he or she is infatuated with. Is it okay to pursue that relationship? What are things freshmen should be cautious when dating a senior?

Christopher: In general if the freshman is the woman and the senior is the man, it is more widely acceptable. But that is not always the case. I would say go for it. What’s the worst that can happen (as long as both parties are over 18)? The potential problems with dating a senior: the senior will soon be graduating, looking for jobs or applying to graduate school, his/her friends will be significantly older and may look down on you for being ‘immature’.

Tonya: My last question is another common scenario, long distance relationships. Sometimes the lover is left in high school, is at another college or graduates and moves away. What is your best advice to maintaining a long distance relationship and keeping it strong?

Christopher: Buy two webcams, install Skype.

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Farting in Class – Hilarious Video!

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5 Reasons to Get Outside

So you’ve heard about the dangers of sun exposure, but did you know it could be even more dangerous to stay inside? Quit worrying about your lily-white skin and hit the beach, you’ll be glad you did. Here are five reasons to break out your sunscreen and toast your tootsies.

1. Exercise

It’s so much easier to exercise outdoors. Treadmills are boring! Get out there and see some sights while you run. Play games, like basketball or tennis, and forget you’re even burning calories. Your bike is a great way to get around and a heck of a lot cheaper than gas.


2. Vitamin D

“Two forms are important in humans: ergocalciferol (vitamin D2) and cholecalciferol (vitamin D3). Vitamin D2 is synthesized by plants. Vitamin D3 is synthesized by humans in the skin when it is exposed to ultraviolet B (UVB) rays from sunlight.” At least ten minutes of sunshine is needed daily for your body to produce the vitamin D3 that you need. The major function of vitamin D is to maintain levels of calcium and phosphorus. Vitamin D aids in the absorption of calcium, helping to form and maintain strong bones. Research also suggests that vitamin D may provide protection from osteoporosis, hypertension (high blood pressure), cancer, and several autoimmune diseases.


3. Social

It’s so much more fun to hand around in groups when you are outside than being crammed in a room like sardines. The next party you throw or gathering you have, try to make it outside. If it’s daytime, try a picnic. Fun plus food equals a good time had by all. If it is night, light it up! Tiki torches or even car headlights provide a fun atmosphere and no one will call the cops to tell you to turn down your music!


4. Brain break

Even the biggest geeks need a break once in a while. Study breaks give you time to recharge and reevaluate. Take a breath of fresh air, look at some scenery, and stop to smell the roses. Your brain, and your test scores, will thank you.


5. Experience

If you are stuck in school all the time, studying in the library, or even hanging out in your dorm, you are missing out on experiencing your town. Every place has something to offer. Your town may have an active night life, it may have a boardwalk or beach, it may have a cool historical district, or just beautiful scenery. You’ll never know if you don’t venture forth and look. Don’t be the guy who knows nothing about the town they went to school in. Take the time to explore.

There you have it; five reasons to get outside. Don’t end up a pasty egg-head, get outside and join in on the fun. If your school isn’t big on the out-of-doors, start something yourself. Winter, Spring, or Fall, you can enjoy the outdoors. So take a chance, take a deep breath, and get outside!

This Guest post is by Christine Kane, a graduate of Communication and Journalism. She enjoys writing about a wide-variety of subjects including internet providers in my area for different blogs. She can be reached via email at: Christi.Kane00 @ gmail.com

[All photos free courtesy of MorgueFile.com.]

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Top 7 Worst Tasting Beers (That You’d Only Drink in College)

We’ve all tasted cheap beer. You know that toe-curling malt liquor every college student forces down their gullets on Thursday nights. But hey, what’s college for anyways?

I get it, you’re a broke student on the verge of splurging next month’s rent on cheap thrills and bad decisions. At the same time, it’s not exactly in the budget to drain your entire student checking pounding expensive beer. You can only afford cheap beer. Plus there are more important things to pay for like ramen noodles, electricity, and books.

But you should be warned, there are some downright nasty cheap beers on the market. Join me in a sampling of the 7 worst tasting beers you’d only drink in college:

1. “Camo 24 High-Gravity Lager”

As a rule of thumb “high-gravity” means you’re quicker to the floor. This stuff tastes like a rusty nail, and it’s typically more expensive than Busch Light. Why would you trade “watered-down goodness” for “rusty nail afterburner?”

2. “Big Flats”

There’s a reason Walgreen’s sells this for $2.99 per 6-pack. You can barely buy a 6-pack of cola at that price. Save the $2.99 for Subway coupons or Jimmy John’s customer appreciation days. You’re going to need to eat, and the dollar menu at McDonald’s will taste 100 times better.

3. “St. Ides Malt Liquor”

It’s cheap, bang for the buck, but you’re going to regret choking down that bitter nastiness. Whenever you see someone take a swig of St. Ides, and admit with watery eyes that “it’s not that bad” – then they’re blatantly lying, and you should run the other direction.   

4. “Colt 45 High-Gravity”

**Refer to #1

5. “Hamm’s”

This stuff is a meal in a can. Drinking it is similar to lopping up too much gravy on Thanksgiving Day while simultaneously pounding fruit cake. It’s a brick in your stomach. Not to mention your grandfather drank Hamm’s, and I guarantee the recipe hasn’t changed.

6. “Steel Reserve 211 High Gravity”

Whoa. Buddy. Even the name is scary. Who wants to drink something named “Steel Reserve?” It’s like they bottled and aged Chuck Norris for 60 years before selling to college kids and gangbangers. Not to mention its science:
“High Gravity” x 211 = 211% better chance of you not graduating.
Stay away from this, unless you can withstand multiple roundhouse kicks to the face by Chuck Norris.

7. “Milwaukee’s Best Dry” (or “Milwaukee’s Best Ice” – both equally horrible)

If you’re going to stoop low and drink “The Beast” – please drink “Milwaukee’s Best Light.” At least the after effects on your stomach are manageable. Plus you’re going to look like the Marlboro Man strolling into a party carrying a case of Old Milwaukee’s. Wrong party old man…

In general your best bet is to stick with Natural Light, Busch Light, or Keystone. None are outstanding, but for the price they can quickly lube up your college experience. Happy indulgence!

Phil is launching a shower beer revolution one koozie at a time. If you enjoy beer in the shower like most college students, hop over to Shakoozie.com now!

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College Health Tips: 6 Ways to Beat the Summertime Blues

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Most college students look forward to the long days of summer when the textbooks can be tucked away and eight hours of sleep can be had on any given night. Yet once summer sets in, many people find themselves with a case of the summertime blues. Here are a few causes of summer depression and steps you can take to help things go a little smoother.

1. Schedule Change

Even though so many students look forward to the freedom summer provides an abrupt change in routine can throw your head into disarray. The disruption of not having somewhere to be at a certain time can actually be quite a stressful situation. According to UCLA researchers, staying on some kind of steady schedule over the summer can help improve sleep, decrease boredom and make you feel like you’re still accomplishing something.

2. Seasonal Affective Disorder

According to UCLA, as much as six percent of the United States population suffers from Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). Most people with SAD suffer in the winter, when the weather is colder and days are shorter. Yet about one-tenth of those suffering from the disorder end up getting bummed out in the summer. Planning a getaway with friends can help keep you occupied and get your mind off summertime depression.

3. Financial Stress

The weight of financial stress can hit college students in the summer. Stress only compounds when the pressure is on to find a summer job and build up an egg nest for next semester. When money’s tight, spending more time with family is a great and inexpensive way to be around people who can help put your financial woes into perspective. Summer is also a great time to rework your budget and come up with a financial plan for next year.

4. Self-Esteem Issues

Summer can be tough on your self-image. The days of shorts and bathing suits tend to make people feel self-conscious about their bodies. Being embarrassed tends to make people withdraw, spend less time with friends and fall into a cycle of depression. To combat those feelings, it is important to recognize what situations trigger those awkward moments and avoid them. A good exercise routine will also work wonders for self-perception.

5. Excessive Heat

The heat of summer can bring out the worst in tensions. Granted, those days spent lounging by the beach or hanging out at the pool are great, but sometimes it is simply too hot. It is all too easy to find yourself spending more and more time indoors. The couch or bedroom can become a depressing place after you’ve spent endless hours indoors. To stay cool and get out of the house, consider a gym membership, yoga class or simply walk around an air-conditioned mall when you get antsy.

6. Intellectual Boredom

College students are used to being challenged on a daily basis. There’s always an essay to write or test to cram for. Yet once summer sets in, many people find the lack of intellectual stimuli downright depressing. A summer class can help you stay focused and knock some credits out of the way. Even when you’re off campus, there’s always the option of taking some courses online to keep your brain fresh. From online health care administration to criminal justice degrees, there are options out there for almost every field of study.

Summer is an important time for college students to regroup and relax. Getting plenty of sleep and staying sharp is an excellent way to stay on an even keel and feel refreshed for next year. The key is keeping your options open and knowing what factors trigger the summertime blues.

Julie Lee loves to write about college education and health. Some of her articles about online college degree programs like health care administration have been featured on several student publications.

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